How self-trust leads to more happiness?

No person in this world can tell you what makes you happy.

Happiness is personal, and only you can figure out what you want.

But why is it hard to figure out? Why are there more unhappy people than happy people?Most people lack self-trust.

They do not feel confident in their ability to think, judge, learn, understand and face the facts of reality.

Such people find it hard to set goals and make decisions because they don't trust their ability to think for themselves.

It is natural for them to rely on other's validation and approval to ensure they are on the right path.

When people live according to others, they tend to become unhappy because they do what others want and not what they want.

So, to figure out what makes you happy, you must first improve your self-trust so that you don't crave other's approval and validation.

Let's understand self-trust before we learn how to improve it.

In simple terms, self-trust or self-confidence is trust in your mind.

It means the confidence in one's ability to think, judge, learn, understand, make decisions and understand the facts of reality.

Self-trust entails confidence in one's functioning of the mind.

It doesn't mean you should always make the right decisions or make no mistakes.

It means you will trust yourself enough to think for yourself, express your thoughts, discuss with others, adapt, make decisions, take action, accept and correct mistakes.

If you want to improve your self-trust, that is, enhance the trust in your mind, you should use it more often, that is,

Think for yourself.

Make decisions.

Take responsibility.

Accept your mistakes.

Have opinions.

Express and defend them.

Stay true to yourself.

Disagree and say no when you want to.

Think about your goals, purpose, and values.

Note that all of these activities require and improve self-trust.

So, people with high self-trust naturally practice these activities and improve their self-trust even more.

It doesn't mean people with low self-trust must fake it till they make it to improve their self-trust.

They can improve their self-trust by progressively overloading it.

Start with activities that feel easy for you, like making small decisions, taking responsibility, etc.

Once you become comfortable, take on more challenging activities like disagreeing, setting goals, etc.

That's it for this post. Thank you for reading.

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